How to Choose a Therapist

I have created this page to help you find the therapist you are looking for. If you have spent time and energy looking for a therapist and feel frustrated in your search, let me assure you that finding the right professional for your needs is well worth the effort. A good working relationship between you and your therapist will unleash your potential for a better, more secure and stable future. 

As you probably know, there are plenty of therapists offering psychotherapy services. Some of them are Marriage and Family Therapists (MFTs), some – Licensed Clinical Social Workers (LCSWs), some – psychologists; some are licensed and some are not. But how do you choose the one that is right for you? 

Before choosing a therapist, consider asking yourself: Where did you get the referral? Is it from someone who understands what makes a good therapist? Just because someone you know likes a therapist, does not mean you will like him/her too. Shopping for one is like shopping for a house. Tastes, preferences, and life experiences are different for spouses, siblings, coworkers, etc. The bottom line is this: you should trust your instincts when choosing a therapist. The only way you will be able to trust your instincts is if you talk to a therapist as a part of the searching process. Do not shy away from having that conversation, give yourself a chance to explain what you are looking for and evaluate the responses of the therapist.  If the conversation leaves you with a feeling that would like to talk more, the chances are, that therapist is right for you. In addition to your instincts, here are some considerations that could help you to make the right choice.

Before deciding on a therapist, ask yourself the following questions. Do you prefer energetic, pro-active therapist, or would you rather have one who is laid back? Do you expect to have a collaboration in coming up with solutions or prefer someone who only reflects back on what you say? Do you want a fast-paced therapy or prefer a slow, step-by-step process?

Another factor to consider is the therapist’s gender. It might be difficult for a male therapist to understand the experiences of a female client. On the other hand, the male therapist’s contribution to the problem-solving of female issue might bring a unique light and new perspective to a female view. So, prior to choosing a therapist, weigh carefully what issues you are bringing to therapy and what kind of gender perspective could be more beneficial to you. 

Finally, consider therapist’s sense of humor. I find this quality to be an integral element for some of my clients. If you believe humor is a part of your personality that you would like to bring into the therapy room, discuss with your potential therapist if he/she is using humor in the therapeutic process. 

Each therapist-client relationship is a unique one. It’s a match made in a therapy room, and only you can decide whether that match ultimately works for you. Good Luck!

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